Thank you for this, it made my Sunday. Especially the part about confusing outer judgement with self judgement. Seems to be something a lot of women discover when about to turn 30 lol.
The twisted thing for me was, as soon as I discovered my self-judgement for what it was and actually started being more confident about my life, hobbies, interests, achievements etc. the sceptical look on other peoples’ faces and the sarcastic comments vanished.
People smell insecurity. Because EVERYONE is insecure in their own ways. So if another person is cleary displaying their insecurity, people almost automatically pick on it. That was the very moment it clicked for me. This whole time, it was not actual judgement from them. They were just mirroring my own insecurity.
Love this. What is conventional anyway? Standard? Normal? Time? All mental constructs . We need labels to give our life definition and meaning but it’s important to be self aware or labels become limits. I’m celebrating your journey, your awareness and appreciate your wholehearted candid shares 💕
You've really helped me with this reflection! It gave me important insights on my own shame story, the embarrassment I feel about my current desire to get paid for my art... thanks for being so vulnerable! It is deeply appreciated over here :) for someone with a similar story: tried HD and life turned into a waiting room, also didn't make my own money a lot during my twenties but got money from my parents... not a lot of ppl would have the guts to admit to this so thanks for owning your story!
Thank you for this, it made my Sunday. Especially the part about confusing outer judgement with self judgement. Seems to be something a lot of women discover when about to turn 30 lol.
The twisted thing for me was, as soon as I discovered my self-judgement for what it was and actually started being more confident about my life, hobbies, interests, achievements etc. the sceptical look on other peoples’ faces and the sarcastic comments vanished.
People smell insecurity. Because EVERYONE is insecure in their own ways. So if another person is cleary displaying their insecurity, people almost automatically pick on it. That was the very moment it clicked for me. This whole time, it was not actual judgement from them. They were just mirroring my own insecurity.
YES! exactly this 💫
Get it girl 💝
Hahahaha LOVE YOUUU
Love this. What is conventional anyway? Standard? Normal? Time? All mental constructs . We need labels to give our life definition and meaning but it’s important to be self aware or labels become limits. I’m celebrating your journey, your awareness and appreciate your wholehearted candid shares 💕
Thanks for being here Melissa! And touché, absolutely no such thing as “normal” - just what society tried to convince us was
how we are being programmed!
You've really helped me with this reflection! It gave me important insights on my own shame story, the embarrassment I feel about my current desire to get paid for my art... thanks for being so vulnerable! It is deeply appreciated over here :) for someone with a similar story: tried HD and life turned into a waiting room, also didn't make my own money a lot during my twenties but got money from my parents... not a lot of ppl would have the guts to admit to this so thanks for owning your story!
Ahhh thanks Roos for being here! You get it hehe
Yesss Chiara 🙌🏻 I relate so much!! Love this! 💘