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Deep hugs. I resonate fully as a 3/5. When I first started out doing readings I did “pay as you wish” for a long time to gain that confidence. It is absolutely something that gets easier with time - both charging, and doing 1:1 sessions. Sending you so much love for your ongoing process 💝🥹

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ahhhhh thank you Gwen for the encouragement!! and didn't know you are a 3/5 as well - makes so much sense 🫠 always feel an affinity for my fellow 3/5s <3

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Dec 13, 2023Liked by Chiara

This is so beautifully written!

I am a 1/3 generator and going through a very similar experience around money/experience as a new Pilates teacher...

Barely a week after I finished my Pilates teacher course I was thrown right into teaching private clients in the fanciest Pilates studio in whole city (country even) because 2 previous teachers had pregnancy/childcare stuff going on and the owner (my course mentor) was in need for a new teacher asap.

To be fair In true 1 line fashion I have proper education around human anatomy, certifications gained in my past career as a massage therapist and years of personal Pilates practice, but I have an undefined throat, which is where my personality sun lives so communication has been THE biggest lesson of this lifetime for me, it really comes up when my 1 line knows what moves to give the client and why, but my 3 line hasn’t had enough experience and the throat fails to communicate and cue the lesson properly. It is a little weird to be a new teacher and charging so much already, not even because I choose to, but because the studio rates are same for all teachers! I just try to remind myself that I have personality earth in gate 14 so it’s natural for me to have an energy of prosperity and abundance (obviously I’m simplifying the gate here) haha.

Sorry if this is too long, just felt the need to respond as I truly appreciate your writing and how you describe your experience, thank you 💛

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I loved reading this!! Thank you for sharing your experience - I always think it must be a wild ride for 1/3s! And it sounds like you have a more solid foundation than you realise 😉

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Thank you for sharing this! Loved reading it as a 1/3 MG and also your perspective on it!

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Wonderful story! Do you have defined or undefined heart? If undefined, I feel this could come into play too.

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It is undefined indeed 🫠

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This was literally the YUMMIEST. You have kept it real in the short amount of time that I've come to know you and its beyond refreshing to absorb your experiment through the lived experience. As someone who will soon be dabbling into infusing human design into the concept of monetization, this was everything I needed to pause and marinate with intention. I really adore that you can't offer me what I book you for. That means the most. xoxo

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I LOVED this piece Chiara, thank you. I remember having the same struggle when I first launched as an embodiment practitioner and felt so angry at myself for not being perfect straight away. As a fellow 2/4 Quad Left projector, I hear you! I kept my prices very low for a long time to allow myself the time to hone my skills - I can highly recommend it as a strategy. In many occasions I swapped sessions with other practitioners to continue finessing and refining my work. And now, in this season, I don’t even do 1:1 sessions. I stopped enjoying them. Maybe this will change in the future but it’s been liberating to remove myself from them when the coaching world seems to think everyone should offer 1:1. Thanks for speaking to this, it can be such an isolating feeling!

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Chiara, thank you for this beautiful and heartfelt share 💙 I’m a 1/3 MG and for the longest time I’ve been stuck more in the 1 side of things, wanting to keep studying and investigating, feeling like I’ve not “arrived” yet and now I finally get that we’ve all already arrived, as much as we will never arrive, because life is always in progress haha, and I finally feel like it’s time for me to step up and be ready to embody the 3 part of my profile too. Love all your insights and sending you love for this next part of the journey! ✨

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aw thank you so much for sharing Suyin!!! yes, I totally see with my 1/3 friends how much they know but how fearful they get to start experimenting with the foundation- I love your profile though, always connect and resonate with you guys <3

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Thank you for speaking about this. I can definitely see how my own shame stories play out in my offerings, especially when there's nothing but crickets. Again, we are conditioned to succeed but we don't talk about what that can look like in all its different facets, and whether we even will succeed. And I can see how, as a 3/5 profile, it takes experimentation with lots of trial and error.

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yes! rarely do I see anyway speak out about their failures, without a story ending with *and now im super successful!* Like, what about the mess in between?! Here's to much more trial and error to come haha.

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I realized after a few fumbled astrology readings that I can't go in with a plan, with a purpose, with an objective--I have to show up, see what catches my attention, and sometimes ramble for several minutes until I find the golden thread in a chart that leads me to the center of what we're doing. I hate watching the clock, rushing, feeling pressured to optimize; I prefer to go until the reading is done, so I just charge a flat fee for my time and we can take breaks and there's no pressure. I book only one appointment per day as a result. I may or not may work two days in row. I don't like to market or advertise, I don't solicit. People find me. I often don't charge at all if I'm not feeling like it. I give drastically reduced rates for folks in countries with terrible exchange rates because I want to, because HD isn't just for people making middle-class+ wages in certain countries. I want maximum flow and accessibility and trust in the process, so I arrange things to suit that. I don't control the system, I only serve in it, and I trust that by making myself available as myself, it will work out.

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